UPDATED 08-21-13: HATEFUL LETTER FROM AN OSHAWA, ONTARIO, CANADIAN MOTHER SENT TO NEIGHBOR, KARLA BEGLEY, TELLING HER TO “EUTHANIZE” HER AUTISTIC SON, MAX, BECAUSE “HE’S A HINDRANCE TO EVERYONE”…

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Wednesday, August 21, 2013 — 3:40 PM (My original post follows my update)

 

Believe it or not, The Durham Regional Police decided not to rule this hate-filled letter as a hate crime toward a boy with a disability.  Apparently, even in Canada, the only hate crimes are those that involve minorities.  How despicable is that?  If these words were directed to minorities that were making loud noises with no disabilities, this would be considered a hate crime. 

There is a silver lining, though.  A mother from the same neighborhood who has autistic children of her own, I believe her name is Mae, is throwing a party for Max on Saturday so he can “come out in his community and play”, and that rotten woman who wrote that horrible letter will be hearing screams of delight on Saturday, with a DJ spinning tunes for all, and a bouncing castle for the kids. 

There’s a video at the top of the story that showcases the outpouring of support Karla Begley and her family is receiving from around the world.  I find comfort in knowing that it’s not the whole world that’s going insane, just a small portion of it…

Durham police rule out hate crime charges after letter directed at autistic child

QueenBee

 

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Here’s my Original Post…

 

 

“Too small is our world to allow discrimination, bigotry and intolerance to thrive in any corner of it, let alone in the United States of America.”

—Eliot Engel

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Karla Begley, left, and her autistic son Max, right. Images courtesy of http://www.citynews.ca.Karla Begley, left, and her autistic son Max, right. Images courtesy of http://www.citynews.ca.

Just when I thought it was safe to poke my head up and look around for some sanity in this world…

Karla Begley from Oshawa, Ontario, Canada received an anonymous letter from a hateful neighbor with such rage for her 13-year old Autistic son, Max, that it severely shocked me.  I’m glad this incident is now under police investigation.

I find the intolerance and words of the “anonymous” letter writer to be despicable.  What the heck is happening in this world where there is so much hate?  My husband has a sister with an autistic son who is the light of all our lives.  Was going over to her neighbor’s to see if there’s anything she could do to help not an option for this hostile woman?   Letter and story, below.

If that woman EVER wrote a note like that to my sister-in-law, I’d have her euthanized…

QueenBee

From: 

http://www.foxnews.com/health/2013/08/20/woman-receives-hate-filled-letter-asking-her-to-move-or-euthanize-autistic-son/?test=latestnews

Woman receives hate-filled letter asking her to move or euthanize autistic son

By Amanda Woerner

Published August 20, 2013

FoxNews.com
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    Karla Begley, left, and her autistic son Max, right. Images courtesy of http://www.citynews.ca.

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    The first portion of a hate letter sent to Karla Begley, regarding her autistic son Max. (Image provided by MaryLynne Stella.)

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    The second portion of a hate letter sent to Karla Begley, regarding her autistic son Max. (Image provided by MaryLynne Stella.)

A hate-filled letter received by a family in Canada telling them to move out of the neighborhood or euthanize their autistic son has gone viral, prompting a flood of support for the family.

The letter began to receive attention after being posted on the Twitter account of Brad and MaryLynne Stella, the married couple that comprise the country duo The Stellas. Their daughters, Lennon, 14, and Maisy Stella, 9, who star as Maddie and Daphne Conrad on the hit TV show “Nashville,” also posted the photo to their joint Twitter account.

The tweet from @TheStellas read: “This letter was anonymously slipped to our good friend regarding her autistic boy Max. This is appalling.”

The tweet from @LennonandMaisy read: “A close family friend has an autistic boy and this was an anonymous letter slipped under her door. This is real.”

Both tweets included links to photos of the letter.

The Stellas are family friends of Karla Begley, whose autistic son Max is the target of the letter. They initially became aware of the letter after seeing posts about it on Karla’s Facebook page.

“Karla was talking about it on Facebook, so we just obviously were upset by it and knew that it needed to be shared,” MaryLynne, 39, Stella told FoxNews.com. “And awareness is key to change, and so we thought it would be a good thing to put it up and have people see how disturbing it was.”

The letter demands that Begley take action over her “retarded” son Max.  The Ontario mother said she had no idea who would send such a hateful letter, which left her family shocked and devastated.

She tearfully told City News: “Who would do this to a child?”

The letter goes on to criticize Begley for allowing Max to play outside and says: “That noise he makes when he is outside is DREADFUL!!!!!!!!!! It scares the hell out of my normal children!!!!!!!”

The letter also tells Karla that she has a “retarded kid” and “should deal with it properly”.

“What right do you have to do this to hard working people!!!!!!!! I HATE people like you who believe, just because you have a special needs kid, you are entitled to special treatment!!! GOD!!!!!!”

The writer finishes by demanding the family “go live in a trailer in the woods or something with your wild animal kid!!!” and asks the family to do the right thing and move or “euthanize him. Either way, we are ALL better off!!!”

Though MaryLynne said she hasn’t seen Max in a while, she spoke highly of Max, Karla, who suffers from multiple sclerosis, and the entire Begley family.

“(Max) is just a sweetheart. He loves life, and he’s a happy boy. Honestly, it’s the whole family; they’re so incredible,” MaryLynne said. “I hope something awesome comes to them through this. They deserve it so much. They’ve had a really rough go.”

Max does not know the contents of the letter drawing so much attention to him and his family, according to MaryLynne.

“He doesn’t know what it’s from, he’s just hamming it up for the cameras and loving the attention,” MaryLynne said.

The police are now involved in the situation and are taking steps to determine who sent the anonymous letter.

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I’ll just leave the following here:

To the lady living at this address:

I also live in this neighborhood and have a problem!!!! You have a kid that is non-white and you consciously decided that it would be a good idea to live in a close proximity neighborhood like this???? You selfishly put your kid outside every day and let him be nothing but a nuisance with that noise polluting wailing he constantly makes!!! That noise he makes when he is outside is DREADFUL!!!!!!!!!! It scares the hell out of my white children!!!!!!! When you feel like your mulatto kid needs fresh air, take him to our park, you dope!!! We have a nature trail!! Let him run around those places and make noise!!!!!! Crying babies, music, and even barking dogs are normal sounds in a residential neighborhood!!!!! He is NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He is a hindrance to everyone and will always be that way!!!!! Who the hell is going to take care of him?????? No employer will hire him, no girl is going to marry/love him, and you are not going to live forever!! Personally, they should take whatever non-black body parts he possesses and donate them to science. What the hell else good is he to anyone??? You had a miscegenated kid, deal with it… properly!!!!! What right do you have to do this to hard working people??????? I HATE people like you who believe, just because you had a black child, you are entitled to special treatment!!! GOD!!!!!!

Do everyone in our community a huge favor and MOVE!!!! VAMOOSE!!! SCRAM!!!! Move away and get out of this type of neighborhood setting!!! Go live in a trailer in the woods or something with your wild animal kid!!! Nobody wants you living here and they don’t have the guts to tell you!!!!!

Do the right thing and move or euthanize him!!! Either way, we are ALL better off!!!

Sincerely,
One pissed off mother!!!!!

To everybody who read the above and thought, “How can he be so disgustingly racist? That’s a hate crime!” you’d be right. So how does it magically become ‘just an opinion’ when you change the word ‘black’ to ‘Autistic’? Simples!

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I’ve got to say, as I was reading your comment, I was not happy with your words. When I got to the end of your comment, I got your message! Cleverly done, Sheogorath! I only hope others who read your comment will hold their thoughts of you until they read your comment in its entirety. Thanks for stopping by…

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On Dateline NBC a few years ago, they showed a case where
the police were investigating similar notes being received
by a teacher at a school (and the notes were designed
to look as of they were sent by another teacher).

It was later found that the ‘taunted and tortured teacher’
had actually sent the notes to herself as a cry for attention
and public sympathy due to feeling overwhelmed with her
life (and no other ‘teacher’ or ‘outsider’ had sent it to her).

Also, a couple of years ago a man claimed that he began
to receive ‘religious hate mail’ our of nowhere from “an
unknown neighbor” (even though there was no history
of any of the neighbors having harassed, disliked or
shown bigotry or hatred toward his family before) and
within a few weeks his wife ended up “attacked by an
unknown stranger, possibly the “neighbor”, and killed”.

It was later found that he felt his wife was a “burden”
and had composed and sent “the mysterious letters”
himself as a set up and cover for the crime he was
planning in order to “set himself free” from someone
that ‘he’ (not his neighbors) saw as a “burden” in life.

In both cases, entire innocent-communities (even if
it were seen as just ‘one’ phantom-person within that
community) were placed with suspicion and blame for
something that they did not do and would never have
even thought of doing — simply because someone who
felt they wanted to ‘escape’ their own “burdens” in life
were setting up both the communities and the family
member from whom they wanted to be set free.

In addition, there have been story after story of
late of the many parents and caregivers of autistic
children who — feeling overwhelmed with taking
care of a person with severe needs and yet also
wanting to gain public attention, pity, sympathy,
support, and a type of victim and/or hero status
— have plotted for weeks, months and even years
to ‘get free of their burden’ in such as way as to
look both innocent and pitiable (and this is often
done by pointing-the-finger at innocent-strangers).

My point is that — UNTIL the police investigate to see
IF this “mysterious note” is actually LEGITIMATE —
this community should NOT be seen as having
some sort of hate-monger living in it’s midst.

This ‘mysterious note’ seems to have a far “too personal”
touch to it to have been composed by any ‘man’ and / or
even by ‘woman’ who would have been a ‘stranger’ or
a ‘near stranger’ to this family — and, until it is PROVEN
that it IS IN FACT from “someone in the neighborhood”,
it seems unreasonable to assume that the neighbors are
not (possibly) being set-up just so that someone who
may feel overwhelmed with life can literally ‘script’ a
situation in which to garner both pity and attention.

It’s not that I’m not trying to be ‘sympathetic’ toward
the family to whom the memo was directed … it’s just
that … the situation of “setting things up in order to
get public sympathy and attention” has been found
to have occurred so frequently in the past number
of years that — unless someone has a video of
a situation occurring — many times it should be
considered as possibly “one of the usual suspects”.

http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/munchaus.htm

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_playing

http://www.salon.com/2008/06/04/exhausted_caregiver/

http://news.nationalpost.com/2013/08/20/letter-telling-ontario-family-to-euthanize-autistic-son-not-a-hate-crime-police/

http://www.post-journal.com/page/content.detail/id/609417/When-Feeling-Overwhelmed–Caregivers-Should-Seek-Help.html?nav=5208

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You bring up a good point—there will always be idiots who prey on the sympathies of others for their own selfish gain. I prefer to focus on the fact that there are far more good people in this world who need our attention and help than bad, manipulating ones who pay more attention to themselves than to those around them. I’m sure there are a lot more people who agree with me because we still give to respectable charities in spite of the callous few…

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